How can a senior make the most of living in a retirement community?

Words of Wisdom from Someone Who’s Helped Many Make the Move

Having guided many individuals and couples through the transition to senior living, I’ve gathered a few pieces of practical advice worth sharing:

Don’t Wait for a Crisis
One of the most common regrets I hear is, “I wish we had done this sooner.” Don’t wait for a health scare or emergency to force your hand. Begin the process early, while you still have the time, energy, and options to make a thoughtful decision. As I tell my clients… “It’s always better to be five years too early rather than 5 minutes too late!”

Move as a Couple, If You Can
If you’re part of a couple, making the move together—before care is urgently needed – can make the adjustment easier and more rewarding for both of you.

Make the Decision Yourself
It’s your life, your future, and your choice. While input from adult children can be helpful, the final decision should reflect your own preferences—not someone else’s idea of what’s best for you.

Downsize Intentionally
Apartments in retirement communities are typically smaller than your current home. Start the downsizing process early so you’re not overwhelmed later. Sort, donate, and simplify. And remember: Your kids probably don’t want your stuff!

Commit to the Move—Fully

“One foot in, one foot out” doesn’t work.

Some people choose to keep their primary home “just in case” they don’t like their new community. While that may seem like a safe backup plan, it often leads to a sense of hesitation or emotional limbo.

To truly thrive in a retirement community, you need to commit with the right mindset. Success comes from being open to new routines, relationships, and possibilities—not constantly looking back or second-guessing your decision. Give yourself the chance to fully embrace the lifestyle, and you’ll be far more likely to enjoy it.

Embrace Community Life
Living in a retirement community is different from living in a private home. There will be shared spaces, social events, rules, and routines. It may feel like a big shift at first—but give it time. Be open to new people and experiences. You just might find yourself more engaged and fulfilled than you imagined.